Archive | April, 2016

Lexii takes Columbus, Ohio

11 Apr


I surprised one of my college besties by flying out to her hometown Columbus, Ohio just to cheer for her as she gracefully cat walked across the stage to get her 2nd Bachelor’s degree, this time it was in Nursing- and you better believe she left a trail of Black Girl Magic behind her. I am extremely honored to have her as a friend. She was so shocked that I had been in her house for at least five hours before she woke up. Mind you we haven’t seen each other since May 4th 2014, the day we graduated from Undergrad but we talk every single day. Dani is one in a million, she obtains two degrees, married to the love of her life and one humble blessed young lady. It’s been a great time watching her blossom. Continue to do great things Mrs. T.


Lexii Takes The Bay Area

11 Apr

5,4,3,2,1 HAPPY NEW YEAR!

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I know a few months late and a dollar short but better late than never. I hope you all are enjoying your 2016 adventures, I surely am.


One day towards the end of 2015 I vowed to travel more in 2016 and I’ve kept my word.


I brought in the New Year with some college friends in Northern California at a Trap Art event. The night was spent great art, Bay Area music and smiles that burst out into laughter with college friends with our stories about being in our twenties. Then we brunched, reminisced and shared much needed advice about going after our dreams no matter the circumstance. Being an Alumna of an all women’s Historically Black College, every time we link up it feels like our we’re the lost footage of the classic hit show “Girlfriends”

The Art of Being Comfortable In Your Singleness

11 Apr

This blog post was inspire by my Bennett Sister Lydia Blanco’s Facebook status:


“Every day I learn something new about myself in my singleness and I thank God for that”


There is art in being comfortable in your singleness.


Within my group of friends two are married, two are in serious relationships, one has entered her journey in to single motherhood and the other 3 are dating.


Its been a little over a year since my last relationship. Please believe me when I was timing is everything. My journey to being “okay” with being single was no walk through the park. I bumped into three unnecessary situationships; that could’ve been avoided. But hey, experience is the best teacher, right?


It seemed as if every time I logged into my social media accounts someone just announced they’re getting married. Of course, I often wondered when was it going to be my turn. Everywhere I looked , a relationship was there and I really wanted to be in one. From TV, social media, friends etc. everything revolved around love & relationships.


I had a lot of free time on my hands because I wasn’t spending countless hours on the phone cupcaking anymore. I then began reading books like “Letters to my Daughter” by Maya Angelou. The book was phenomenal and taught me that the art of living fearlessly is to seize every opportunity. Maya took many risks, she too longed for love and got her heart broken many times. Those unfortunate lessons taught her how to love herself endlessly.


It was then when I realized I was so uncomfortable being alone. While driving I’d rather plug in my headsets and talked to a friend or two instead of listening to the radio enjoying “ME” time.


So, I challenged myself to starting dating me. I began to take myself out to dinner, to the spa, shopping, pack a bag, occupy a window seat and travel alone. It began to become second nature to spend time with myself than to hit a bar or a club. I’d rather stay home and scrapbook, cook, write in my diary or Netflix and chill with my damn self.


I also pray, write scripts, work out, make goals and achieve them. To my sisters out there searching for a bae. Remember to find “she” before finding “he”. We’re young and we have time. Focus on yourself, forgive the person who broke your heart and enjoy your singleness. It’s not that bad, I promise.